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How to Comfort Those in Need

  1. By yourself, pray for God’s blessing for the proposed contact or visit, and for the specific need you hope to meet and satisfy.
  2. Ask what happened and how he/she is feeling. Listen. Don’t talk too much, and be sure you have the whole story before you proceed further. Proverbs 18:13 – “He who answers before listening – that is his folly and his shame.
  3. Help the person through the following ways:
    • Read Scripture to him/her. If possible, concentrate on using verses familiar to the person – they will be much more memorable. Also select verses that are easily understood and require little or no explanation. Those in great pain may have little or no concentration. Choose verses that speak directly to the person’s need. The verses in this section are listed to help you make the selection. If the person is an unbeliever, explain the Roman Road of salvation (Romans. 3:23, 6:23, 5:8, 10:9) when appropriate.
    • Write Scripture passages on a little card for the person to read for his/her own study and comfort.
    • Pray for the person.
    • Make a referral according to the need. Sometimes this means referring to an elder, pastor, professional Christian counselor, Bible study leader, Bible study group, or church activity. For example, if the person needs help making dinners for her family, and if your church has an emergency meals ministry, tell the person that you’ll contact the coordinator of that ministry. Know your limits. You can’t do everything. Let others in the church get involved.
  4. Follow-up. Call a few days or a week later and ask how’s everything going. Continue praying for the person.

Index to Verses for Special Problems

Light Affliction Fear and Anxiety Suicide Doubt About Healing
Heavy Affliction Discouragement Anger Doubt About One’s Own Salvation
Incurable Affliction Feeling of Inferiority Judgmentalism An Unforgiving Spirit
Pain Feeling of Superiority Impatience Careless Speech, Loose Tongue
Old Age Nervousness Backsliding Questionable Amusements
Death Loneliness Temptation Racism
Loss of Property Job Worries Drunkenness Divorce

 


Light Affliction

  • 2 Cor. 4:17-18
    For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
  • Hebrews 12:6
    because the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son.
  • Nahum 1:7
    The Lord is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him,
  • Psalms 37:5
    Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this:

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Heavy Affliction

  • Psalms 25:16-18
    Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted. The troubles of my heart have multiplied; free me from my anguish. Look upon my affliction and my distress and take away all my sins.
  • Psalms 34:17
    The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles.
  • Job 2:10
    He replied, “You are talking like a foolish woman. Shall we accept good from God, and not trouble?” In all this, Job did not sin in what he said.
  • 1 Peter 2:20-21
    But how is it to your credit if you receive a beating for doing wrong and endure it? But if you suffer for doing good and you endure it, this is commendable before God. To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps.
  • Romans 5:3-5
    Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.
  • 1 Peter 3:14
    But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed. “Do not fear what they fear; do not be frightened.”

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Incurable Affliction

  • 2 Corinthians 12:7-10
    To keep me from becoming conceited because of these surpassingly great revelations, there was given me a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
  • 1 Peter 4:12-13
    Dear friends, do not be surprised at the painful trial you are suffering, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice that you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed.
  • Psalms 112:7-8
    He will have no fear of bad news; his heart is steadfast, trusting in the Lord. His heart is secure, he will have no fear; in the end he will look in triumph on his foes.
  • Psalms 39:3-4
    My heart grew hot within me, and as I meditated, the fire burned; then I spoke with my tongue: “Show me, O Lord, my life’s end and the number of my days; let me know how fleeting is my life.

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Pain

  • Romans 8:18
    I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.
  • Romans 8:26
    In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express.
  • Job 36:15
    But those who suffer He delivers in their suffering; He speaks to them in their affliction.
  • 2 Corinthians 4:8-10
    We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body.
  • 1 Peter 1:6-7
    In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith-of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire-may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.
  • 2 Samuel 9:13
    And Mephibosheth lived in Jerusalem, because he always ate at the king’s table, and he was crippled in both feet.
  • Philippians 4:13
    I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
  • 2 Chron 33:12-13
    In his distress he sought the favor of the Lord his God and humbled himself greatly before the God of his fathers. And when he prayed to him, the Lord was moved by his entreaty and listened to his plea; so he brought him back to Jerusalem and to his kingdom. Then Manasseh knew that the Lord is God.
  • Deuteronomy 33:25
    The bolts of your gates will be iron and bronze, and your strength will equal your days.

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Old Age

  • Psalm 37:25
    I was young and now I am old, yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread.
  • Psalm 71:18
    Even when I am old and gray, do not forsake me, O God, till I declare your power to the next generation, your might to all who are to come.
  • Isaiah 46:4
    Even to your old age and gray hairs I am he, I am he who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.
  • Psalm 90:10
    The length of our days is seventy years-or eighty, if we have the strength; yet their span is but trouble and sorrow, for they quickly pass, and we fly away.
  • Psalm 91:16
    With long life will I satisfy him and show him my salvation.
  • 2 Timothy 4:7-8
    I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day-and not only to me, but also to all who have longed for his appearing.

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Death

  • Job 14:2
    He springs up like a flower and withers away; like a fleeting shadow, he does not endure.
  • Psalm 90:12
    Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.
  • Matthew 18:14
    In the same way your Father in heaven is not willing that any of these little ones should be lost.
  • Psalm 103:15-16
    As for man, his days are like grass, he flourishes like a flower of the field; the wind blows over it and it is gone, and its place remembers it no more.
  • John 11:25-26
    Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die. Do you believe this?”
  • 1 Corinthians 15:56-57
    The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.
  • Psalm 31:5
    Into your hands I commit my spirit; redeem me, O Lord, the God of truth.
  • Revelation 14:13
    Then I heard a voice from heaven say, “Write: Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on.” “Yes,” says the Spirit, “they will rest from their labor, for their deeds will follow them.”
  • John 14:1
    “Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God; trust also in me.
  • John 14:2
    In my Father’s house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you.
  • John 14:3
    And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am.
  • Philippians 1:21
    For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain.
  • 1 Corinthians 13:12
    Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
  • Romans 8:37
    No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.

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Loss of Property

  • Psalm 37:16
    Better the little that the righteous have than the wealth of many wicked;
  • 1 Timothy 6:9
    People who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge men into ruin and destruction.
  • Job 1:21
    and said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised.”
  • 1 Timothy 6:6
    But godliness with contentment is great gain.
  • Job 23:10
    But he knows the way that I take; when he has tested me, I will come forth as gold.

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Fear and Anxiety

  • Isaiah 26:3
    You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you.
  • Philippians 4:6
    Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
  • Psalm 55:22
    Cast your cares on the Lord and He will sustain you; He will never let the righteous fall.
  • John 16:33
    “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
  • Isaiah 40:31
    but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
  • Psalm 27:1
    The Lord is my light and my salvation-whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life-of whom shall I be afraid?

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Discouragement

  • Psalm 43:5
    Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God.
  • Psalm 73:26
    My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
  • Psalm 146:5
    Blessed is he whose help is the God of Jacob, whose hope is in the Lord his God,
  • 1 John 5:14-15
    This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us-whatever we ask-we know that we have what we asked of him.
  • Hebrews 12:12-13
    Therefore, strengthen your feeble arms and weak knees. “Make level paths for your feet,” so that the lame may not be disabled, but rather healed.
  • 1 Peter 5:7
    Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
  • Philippians 4:13
    I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
  • Joshua 1:9
    Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”
  • Psalm 27:14
    Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord. of David.
  • Hebrews 4:16
    Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
  • Psalm 118:6
    The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?
  • 1 Corinthians 16:13
    Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong.

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Feeling of Inferiority

  • Psalm 3:3
    But you are a shield around me, O Lord; you bestow glory on me and lift up my head.
  • Psalm 43:5
    Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God.
  • Psalm 49:16-17
    Do not be overawed when a man grows rich, when the splendor of his house increases; for he will take nothing with him when he dies, his splendor will not descend with him.
  • Exodus 3:11-12
    But Moses said to God, “Who am I, that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?” And God said, “I will be with you. And this will be the sign to you that it is I who have sent you: When you have brought the people out of Egypt, you will worship God on this mountain.”

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Feeling of Superiority

  • Proverbs 3:5
    Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
  • Luke 18:14
    “I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home justified before God. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”
  • 1 Corinthians 10:12
    So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!
  • Romans 12:3
    For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you.
  • Jeremiah 9:23-24
    This is what the Lord says: “Let not the wise man boast of his wisdom or the strong man boast of his strength or the rich man boast of his riches, but let him who boasts boast about this: that he understands and knows me, that I am the Lord, who exercises kindness, justice and righteousness on earth, for in these I delight,” declares the Lord.
  • Matthew 20:27
    and whoever wants to be first must be your slave.

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Nervousness

  • John 14:27
    Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
  • Joshua 1:9
    Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”
  • Isaiah 26:3
    You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you.
  • Psalm 56:3
    When I am afraid, I will trust in you.
  • Psalm 91:15
    He will call upon me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him.
  • Romans 5:1-2
    Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God.

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Loneliness

  • Psalm 34:22
    The Lord redeems his servants; no one will be condemned who takes refuge in him. of David.
  • Hebrews 13:5
    …God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”
  • Psalm 139:9-10
    If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.
  • Genesis 28:16
    When Jacob awoke from his sleep, he thought, “Surely the Lord is in this place, and I was not aware of it.”
  • Matthew 28:20
    and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”
  • John 14:18
    I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.
  • John 15:7
    If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you.

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Job Worries

  • Matthew 6:33
    But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
  • Joshua 1:8
    Do not let this Book of the Law depart from your mouth; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.
  • Proverbs 22:29
    Do you see a man skilled in his work? He will serve before kings; he will not serve before obscure men.
  • Philippians 3:13-14
    Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
  • Romans 12:10-11
    Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord.

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Suicide

  • 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
    Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
  • Job 2:1-3
    On another day the angels came to present themselves before the Lord, and Satan also came with them to present himself before him. And the Lord said to Satan, “Where have you come from?” Satan answered the Lord, “From roaming through the earth and going back and forth in it.” Then the Lord said to Satan, “Have you considered my servant Job? There is no one on earth like him; he is blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil. And he still maintains his integrity, though you incited me against him to ruin him without any reason.”

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Anger

  • Ephesians 4:26
    “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,
  • James 1:19
    My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,
  • Romans 12:19-21
    Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
  • 1 Thessalonians 5:15
    Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else.
  • Matthew 5:44
    But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,
  • Proverbs 15:1
    A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

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Judgmentalism

  • Matthew 7:1-5
    “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
  • Galatians 6:1
    Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted.
  • Romans 14:13
    Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother’s way.
  • Romans 15:1
    We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves.
  • Matthew 18:15-17
    “If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector.
  • Matthew 5:23-25
    “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. “Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is taking you to court. Do it while you are still with him on the way, or he may hand you over to the judge, and the judge may hand you over to the officer, and you may be thrown into prison.
  • Romans 14:10
    You, then, why do you judge your brother? Or why do you look down on your brother? For we will all stand before God’s judgment seat.
  • Romans 2:1-3
    You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things. Now we know that God’s judgment against those who do such things is based on truth. So when you, a mere man, pass judgment on them and yet do the same things, do you think you will escape God’s judgment?

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Impatience

  • Luke 21:19
    By standing firm you will gain life.
  • Psalm 37:7
    Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.
  • Psalm 27:14
    Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord. of David.
  • Matthew 6:34
    Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
  • Psalm 130:5
    I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in his word I put my hope.
  • Galatians 5:5
    But by faith we eagerly await through the Spirit the righteousness for which we hope.

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  • Backsliding

  • Jeremiah 3:14
    “Return, faithless people,” declares the Lord, “for I am your husband. I will choose you-one from a town and two from a clan-and bring you to Zion.
  • Hosea 14:1
    Return, O Israel, to the Lord your God. Your sins have been your downfall!
  • 1 John 1:9
    If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
  • Job 22:23
    If you return to the Almighty, you will be restored: If you remove wickedness far from your tent
  • Hebrews 10:38
    But my righteous one will live by faith. And if he shrinks back, I will not be pleased with him.”
  • Revelation 2:5
    Remember the height from which you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first. If you do not repent, I will come to you and remove your lampstand from its place.
  • Hosea 12:6
    But you must return to your God; maintain love and justice, and wait for your God always.

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Temptation

  • 1 Corinthians 10:12-13
    So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall! No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.
  • James 1:12-14
    Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed.
  • 1 Thessalonians 5:15
    Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else.
  • 2 Timothy 2:4
    No one serving as a soldier gets involved in civilian affairs-he wants to please his commanding officer.

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Drunkenness

  • Proverbs 20:1
    Wine is a mocker and beer a brawler; whoever is led astray by them is not wise.
  • Proverbs 23:19-21
    Listen, my son, and be wise, and keep your heart on the right path. Do not join those who drink too much wine or gorge themselves on meat, for drunkards and gluttons become poor, and drowsiness clothes them in rags.
  • Habukkuk 2:15
    “Woe to him who gives drink to his neighbors, pouring it from the wineskin till they are drunk, so that he can gaze on their naked bodies.
  • Ephesians 5:18
    Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit.
  • Isaiah 5:22
    Woe to those who are heroes at drinking wine and champions at mixing drinks

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Doubt About Healing

  • Jeremiah 17:14
    Heal me, O Lord, and I will be healed; save me and I will be saved, for you are the one I praise.
  • Jeremiah 32:27
    “I am the Lord, the God of all mankind. Is anything too hard for me?
  • Psalm 147:3
    He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
  • Psalm 57:2
    I cry out to God Most High, to God, who fulfills his purpose for me.
  • Matthew 15:28
    Then Jesus answered, “Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.” And her daughter was healed from that very hour.

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Doubt About One’s Own Salvation

  • John 5:24
    “I tell you the truth, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not be condemned; he has crossed over from death to life.
  • John 10:27-29
    My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one can snatch them out of my hand. My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all; no one can snatch them out of my Father’s hand.
  • John 6:37
    All that the Father gives me will come to me, and whoever comes to me I will never drive away.
  • John 3:36
    Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life, but whoever rejects the Son will not see life, for God’s wrath remains on him.”
  • 1 John 3:2
    Dear friends, now we are children of God, and what we will be has not yet been made known. But we know that when he appears, we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is.
  • Romans 8:38-39
    For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
  • 1 John 5:13
    I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God so that you may know that you have eternal life.

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An Unforgiving Spirit

  • Colossians 3:13
    Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
  • Matthew 6:14
    For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
  • Luke 17:3-4
    So watch yourselves. “If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him. If he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times comes back to you and says, ‘I repent,’ forgive him.”
  • Matthew 18:15-17
    “If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector.
  • Matthew 5:23-25
    “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. “Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is taking you to court. Do it while you are still with him on the way, or he may hand you over to the judge, and the judge may hand you over to the officer, and you may be thrown into prison.
  • Ephesians 4:32
    Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
  • Luke 23:34
    Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” And they divided up his clothes by casting lots.

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Careless Speech, Loose Tongue

  • Psalm 34:13
    keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies.
  • James 3:5-10
    Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell. All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and creatures of the sea are being tamed and have been tamed by man, but no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be.
  • Psalm 19:14
    May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer. for the director of music.
  • Proverbs 10:20
    The tongue of the righteous is choice silver, but the heart of the wicked is of little value.
  • Proverbs 15:4
    The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.
  • Proverbs 21:23
    He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity.
  • James 1:26
    If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless.

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Questionable Amusements

  • Matthew 6:21
    For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
  • 1 Corinthians 8:8-13
    But food does not bring us near to God; we are no worse if we do not eat, and no better if we do. Be careful, however, that the exercise of your freedom does not become a stumbling block to the weak. For if anyone with a weak conscience sees you who have this knowledge eating in an idol’s temple, won’t he be emboldened to eat what has been sacrificed to idols? So this weak brother, for whom Christ died, is destroyed by your knowledge. When you sin against your brothers in this way and wound their weak conscience, you sin against Christ. Therefore, if what I eat causes my brother to fall into sin, I will never eat meat again, so that I will not cause him to fall.
  • 1 Corinthians 9:27
    No, I beat my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.
  • 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
    Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
  • 1 John 2:15-17
    Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For everything in the world-the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does-comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever.

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Racism

  • Acts 17:26
    From one man he made every nation of men, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he determined the times set for them and the exact places where they should live.
  • Galatians 3:28
    There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
  • Acts 8:27-29
    So he started out, and on his way he met an Ethiopian eunuch, an important official in charge of all the treasury of Candace, queen of the Ethiopians. This man had gone to Jerusalem to worship, and on his way home was sitting in his chariot reading the book of Isaiah the prophet. The Spirit told Philip, “Go to that chariot and stay near it.”
  • Romans 1:16
    I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile.
  • 1 Corinthians 1:24
    but to those whom God has called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God and the wisdom of God.
  • John 3:16
    For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

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Divorce

  • Matthew 5:31
    “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.
  • Matthew 19:3-12
    Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”
    “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
    “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?”
    Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.”
    The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.”
    Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”
  • 1 Corinthians 7:10-17
    To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.
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